Stalkers and Peepers Commit Murder and Rape: How Many Times I Gotta Tell Ya?

Update: on the TV news tonight, it was reported that Kawon Higgins

murdered Amanda Bonner, then killed himself.

It was also reported that he was the father of her two children. 

Two bodies found in Manhattan Kansas. One was a young woman who reported to police and her neighbors in fear regarding a man who was bothering her, peeping into her house. The story is reported in the Manhattan Mercury here.  Katherine Wartell writes,
"The Riley County Police were called to 715 Yuma Friday afternoon and discovered two bodies. Police called the deaths suspicious. The neighbor ...told The Mercury Saturday that there had been a history of harassment between the woman and a man whose body was discovered at the same time.  Authorities identified the deceased as Amanda Bonner, 23, of 715 Yuma Street, and Kawon Higgins, 26. The bodies were discovered Friday afternoon..." Apparently the woman called the police over a dozen times regarding this man.
The story went on to report that the young woman's tires had been slashed (as had those of her boyfriend) and that a restraining order had been placed against Higgins.
Amanda Bonner had two children.

In the Manhattan Mercury article, the neighbor of Amanda Bonner is quoted as saying, " A peeper doesn't stay a peeper. I've made complaints to everyone trying to get something done."
It reminded me
of an incident years ago where the K-State Collegian reported lightheartedly that a peeper was "flashing" his genitalia through KSU Hale Library window. He or someone matching his description had committed a crime against a student in Leasure Hall after hours within a day or two of the first "flashing".
The collegian reported it almost as a joke. He masturbated and flashed his genitalia, so it was funny, right? Except that when the young student trapped in the room with him tried to leave, he held the student down with the force of of his body. She had his blood and skin under her fingernails, her arm ended up in a sling, she feared death as she tried unsuccessfully to escape. But he was reported as a "flasher."

The FBI indicate that most serious violent crimes are committed by men who once committed lesser crimes like peeping, stalking, flashing, harrassing.
When will we take this type of violence seriously?

Last night there was a video on the Topeka evening TV news regarding an event about Ending the Violence. These events abound, and you may have participated in these events or at least listened to the reports for years, for scores of years, for generations now.
People gather with quilts, or t-shirts, or poems, or photos, and tell about the survivors-- or the dead, the lost, the heroes; at times they tell about people who were not listened to, people who were frustrated and filled with anger or grief or terror.

Riley County Domestic Violence Awareness Event HERE

Take Back the Night Tshirt Event click HERE

I've begun to feel that the good these events do is only for those involved;
i have diminishing hope that they serve an educational or preventative value that is significant. Those who are violent (Here and HERE) rarely change. It is good for those who suffer through the dealing with monsters to hear the stories of others, to know they are not alone.
It is good for their children to hear how they suffered for love of them; how much honor we owe them; how brave they were.
But things are not changing. How many times do violent men have to charm their way out of a jail sentence before we lock them up?

I just saw on the evening news about a Dallas Cowboy Football player (Jason Witten) who did a good thing, made a nice event for children who suffer from the cycle of relational violence. It was the next-to-last story--and at the end of the newscast everyone then put up their best "three words" on a card, like "treat everyone nice" and "live love laugh" and "hope is good" --and after it ended, with the newscaster all warm and fuzzy, the very next images flashed on the TV screen from the network were the jarring words, SEX - REVENGE - MURDER - etc. filling the screen; interspersed with scenes of almost naked bodies, blood, and evil grins.

It was an ad for the next show.

Lady Gaga Is Neither...

When we feed our children

deliberately  or with casual indifference

scenes of torture, death, rape, harrassment, and power

mixed with

sexuality, having friends and acceptance, and being cool,

we set them up.
We are setting up our children for failure and sadness.

More on the topic:

http://marysbeagooddogblog.blogspot.com/2011/05/dont-hurt-people.html
http://marysbeagooddogblog.blogspot.com/2011/10/topeka-domestic-violence-and.html

If they're gonna drink, at least do it in a safe place!
If they're gonna smoke at least make them smoke filters!
If they gonna make babies, click  HERE


Time to take a sick day...

Penalty Fines for Violence in the NFL: (that's so NOT etrade baby cool)

If the NFL player who Kicks or Hits or Stomps someone had to give the $42,000 fine to the very player he hit or kicked or spit on, my bet is somehow he would be able to stop it. (let's ask Ndamukong Suh and  Evan Dietrich-Smith)
What does that tell you?

http://www.nfl.com/news/story/09000d5d82380749/article/vikings-de-robison-fined-20k-for-kick-to-packers-ol-lang

http://espn.go.com/nfl/story/_/id/7266916/hue-jackson-oakland-raiders-talks-nfl-ripping-refs

http://www.freep.com/article/20111125/SPORTS01/111125008/NFL-Ndamukong-Suh-stomp-to-be-reviewed?odyssey=tab%7Cmostpopular%7Ctext%7CSPORTS
excerpt:
"A NFL spokesperson said today it’s “a safe assumption” that the league will review Detroit Lions defensive tackle Ndamukong Suh’s stomp of Green Bay Packers offensive lineman Evan Dietrich-Smith next week, when it typically looks at plays for potential discipline.
With 9:16 left in the third quarter, after the Lions stopped the Packers on third-and-goal, Suh tangled with Dietrich-Smith as both players went to the ground. Suh pressed Dietrich-Smith’s head into the turf three times, got up and stomped on his right arm as he walked away from the pile.
Suh was penalized and ejected, the Packers got an automatic first down, and scored two plays later to break open a seven-point game and went on to hand the Lions their eighth straight Thanksgiving loss, 27-15..."

Football-- who are the stars?
http://marysbeagooddogblog.blogspot.com/2011/05/ray-lewis-says-no-football-crime-will.html

http://marysbeagooddogblog.blogspot.com/2011/01/ben-roethlisberger-gets-to-play-for-nfl.html

http://marysbeagooddogblog.blogspot.com/2011/02/superbowls-superbeau-riche-suffer-in.html
give me the
etrade baby and the Fox football boys...
http://marysbeagooddogblog.blogspot.com/2011/01/e-trade-baby-tv-ad-that-portrays.html

The NFL: A job where, when you are mad at your co-workers, you can just kick them, stomp them, or start a big Brawl!
As Tracy Jordan says after getting fined for cursing on TV (on 30Rock) , My Lesson? "I Learned when you are rich enough you can do anything you want!!...

(Just pay the fine later)

Oh,

Where have you Gone,

Barry Sanders....?

Giants fan beaten to near death; Violence in the culture. Dodgers/San Francisco statement released

A sports fan beaten for his alliance and apparel? /sports/2011/04/05/san-francisco-giants-fan-beaten-dodger-game-brain-damage/  : excerpt:

"April 5, 2011: Family members of attacked Giant fan, Bryan Stow, gather for a news conference outside USC Hospital in Los Angeles. They are, from left, John Devitt, uncle, Elizabet Stow, mother, Bonnie Stow, sister, Erin Stow, sister and Dave Stow, father. According doctors, Bryan Stow is showing signs of brain damage and remains in critical condition."

Bryan Stow, a 42-year-old paramedic and father of two from Santa Cruz, is showing signs of brain damage and remains in critical condition after the beating. He suffered a severe skull fracture and bad bruising to his brain’s frontal lobes, said neurosurgeon Dr. Gabriel Zada.&nbsp Stow was in a parking lot heading to a taxi stand after the Dodgers' 2-1 victory over the Giants on March 31 when two shaven-headed young men in Dodgers clothing began taunting and swearing at him and two other fans, who were all wearing Giants gear, police said. ...Stow was punched in the back of the head. He fell down, bashing his head on the pavement, and was kicked before the attackers ran;They fled in a four-door sedan driven by a woman who had a boy with her, police said....The suspects are described as between 18 and 25 years old, according to LAPD Detective Percy Morris. Composite sketches released by police show they both had shaved heads and thin mustaches. One suspect had a small goatee and the second had numerous tattoos on his neck...

There is this individual anger and inner violence

There is this violence of control and power in relationships

This story makes me ponder the horrifying lack of love

lack of community

lack of species recognition in the culture.

more about this later

The widening spiral of infection, violence like a virus, selfish, without empathy

A statement was read at the Giants - Dodgers game: HERE: and HERE

UPDATE: Description of the encounter in the parking lot: HERE at USA todays Daily Pitch

excerpt:

"...Corey Maciel also told 710 ESPN Radio in Los Angeles that Stow was blindsided during the attack and was "unconscious before he ever hit the ground."

Stow remains in a medically induced coma after having surgery on his skull to take pressure off his brain.

Here is Maciel's radio account of what happened to Stow, according to ESPN Los Angeles:

"We were walking out and the mood definitely changed from intimidating to hostile once we got into the parking lot. We were actually out there, we were saying great game, shaking some Dodgers fans hands. There were some that were yelling profanities, and just being rowdy. That's how it started. … We were honestly just trying to get out of there with our heads down and our tails between our legs because it turned from intimidating to hostile and we were uncomfortable and wanted out of there. …

"Bryan and I were walking, side-by-side, and talking, not even about the game, about work, I think. Somebody pushed Bryan. This guy came out from behind the car and pushed Bryan into me. I grabbed Bryan and rolled away. We kept walking. Then, at that point my older brother Matt intercepted a punch on the cheek that was meant for Bryan, by the same guy that had pushed Bryan. … We all kept walking. We didn't say anything. We just knew we needed to get out of there. We needed to avoid this confrontation. About five minutes later, they came up from behind us, and they caught us when we were all a little bit spread out. I never saw it coming. My other friend Jeff got hit in the mouth and Bryan got hit from behind. He got hit in the side of the head and never saw it coming."...

and sadly, the medical prognosis is not good at the moment.

http://www.cnn.com/2011/CRIME/04/12/california.fan.attacked/

excerpt:

..."Relatives of the Giants fan launched a website -- http://www.support4bryanstow.com/

 -- in part to provide daily updates on his condition. Stow's sister, Bonnie Stow, told CNN that one priority of the neurosurgeons is keeping him sedated to prevent seizures and swelling in the brain.

In a recent Web posting, she wrote: "The doctors want to limit visitors, noise and physical contact with Bryan. They're wanting to keep his brain calm and just ... quiet ... to see how that works. ... That way the neurologists can get a better reading of brain activity. Fever down."

Bonnie Stow said her brother's seizures have subsided, and over the next 24 to 48 hours doctors want to gradually reduce the sedation he is under and, hopefully, bring him out of the medically induced coma.

"We can't wait for Bryan to wake up so he can see for himself just how much people love him, whether they are family, friends or strangers."

Since the unprovoked attack after the March 31 game at Dodger Stadium, money has poured in from numerous donors and fundraising events to help pay for medical costs and provide support for his two young children. Bonnie Stow said the website also identifies fundraising activity endorsed by Stow's family..."

Along with all the pain and feelings of confusion and personal anguish, this event will provoke some  discussion of the strange new culture of senseless and selfish violence.

Violence to make an inferior feeling of smallness go away for a minute.

In OZ ~ Mums lead abuse shame

This will get the anonymummies in OZ in a snit and a knot. They spout they, as maternalists, (i.e. victim feminists with children) are the right parent for children but the OZ data is consistent with most every where else in western democracies. Single moms alone or in partnership with their boyfriends/new male partners are the worst abusers and killers of children. These maternalists rail against male abusers but they operate hate sites and slime their critics. Last time I checked that was abuse. Go figure at the hypocrisy and double standards. MJM









Sunday Herald Sun


(Melbourne)
13 September 2009, Page 35


By Laurie Nowell

Child abuse is rising dramatically in Australia, according to the first
in-depth study to be released on the issue in a decade.

Data shows cases of abuse against children rose more than 50 per cent
between 2006 and 2008.

In the 37 per cent of cases in which a parent was the perpetrator, mothers
were responsible for 73 per cent of abuse cases while fathers were the
cause of 27 per cent.

The data, the first of its kind to emerge since 1996 and obtained under
Freedom of Information (FoI) laws, was compiled by the Western Australia
Department of Child Protection.

The figures present a disturbing snapshot of soaring child abuse and its
perpetrators. Experts say the data can accurately be applied across Australia.

Applications under FoI for similar data from all other states were refused.

The statistics come as the Federal Government has signalled it may roll
back the "shared parenting" amendments to the Family Law Act, brought in
under the Howard government to give fathers greater access to their
children in custody battles.

The data shows fathers are most responsible for sex abuse against children
- accounting for more than 85 per cent of cases.

But mothers carry out more than 65 per cent of cases of emotional and
psychological abuse and about 53 per cent of physical abuse. They are also
responsible for about 93 per cent of cases of neglect.

There were 1,505 cases of abuse of children in WA in 2007-08 - 427 of them
were carried out by mothers and 155 by fathers.

In other cases in which the gender of the perpetrator was determined, 463
cases were carried out by women and 353 by men.

A comparison with 2005-06 data shows the number of total cases of abuse had
risen more than 50 per cent from 960. In 2005-06, mothers carried out 312
acts of abuse and fathers 165.

University of Western Sydney lecturer Micheal Woods said the findings
"undermined the myth that fathers were the major risk factor for their
children's wellbeing".

"While there are some abusive fathers, there are in fact a larger
proportion of violent and abusive mothers," Mr Woods said.